About 10 days ago, my wife has written in her blog that we have registered our marriage for 11 years and I have known my wife since 1992 when I started courting her. I was still serving my National Service in the army during the time when we started dating and shortly after NS, I started working.
Throughout my whole working life that started since 1995, I have been travelling to countries like China, Indonesia, Thailand, Malaysia, Germany and Sweden starting from 20 – 30% per year when I just started to about 40 – 60% per year at the current moment. It may not be that much as compared to some other people who are travelling up to about 80% of their time per year but a lot of people including myself previously would make this classic statement:
“Why do you think I am working so hard for? I am working so hard and making more money all because of the FAMILY!”
Have you heard of this statement? I bet you had. But the biggie here is that have we actually asked our family what do they really want? What about me? Have I asked my family what do they want?
I just did. Now that I have a daughter and expecting a son sometime in April, life will definitely not be the same again. I just asked my wife if she is comfortable with the way I am pursuing our dreams on behalf of the family and if she is, I will continue to do what I am doing right now but if she isn’t, then we got to sit down and straighten things out and see what can be done. I will always like to paraphrase what Lee Iacocca said:
“No one on Earth will wish that he had made one more sale and spend one more day in the office but all will wish they had spent more time with their family!”
I am determined to make things work according to how my wife and I have planned out together.
What about you?
Eugene
