Marriage…A Big Step In Life!
It is a joyous occasion today, seeing Yong and Kai Zhen exchanging their vows in front of the Justice of Peace at the Swissotel Merchant Court. Imagine the mixed feelings one is having while exchanging vows 
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Did I feel that way when I was registering my marriage with Rebecca in 1997?Honestly speaking, I do not know and I cannot remember.
Marriage, is a big step in life for most individuals and it could sometimes be a mixed feelings for some people when they are going through it. I believe it was something that I was looking forward to because I felt that Rebecca is a wonderful girl too good to be missed.
Even when I have registered my marriage with my wife Rebecca for more than 10 years, I still feel like we are newly weds and that is very important to keep the passion burning after so many years.
Some of my friends till this date still asked me what is marriage like and I told them:
“Being single is when you can buy happiness and joy with money. Things you buy for gratification like partying, nice clothes, nice accessories, vacations and etc. Being married, is besides the gratification like partying, expensive clothing, expensive gifts, exotic vacations and etc., there are some of the the joy and happiness you have is what money can’t buy. Someone to listen to you, someone to talk to, some jokes you shared together at a special moment and etc.
The most important thing in marriage is this: You must never marry someone that you can live with; you can and only must marry someone you cannot live without!”
Shamefully speaking, I am still amazed why did Rebecca agree to marry me back then because when I looked back at the old me 10 years ago, I was really a big jerk!
Back then, I always take things for granted; I was like a male chauvinist who would always raise my voice at her; I did not bother about how she felt when I make certain statements; my temper was so quick and so bad that even my wife and my Mum would be fearful of me when I flared up.
However, that was all in the past. I have changed and I believe I am a great husband now (still got to be affirmed by my wife). How did I change for a better person? It is all the personal development I have engaged in for the past 5 years. I am thankful for the NEW me and even more thankful for having this wonderful wife, Rebecca Ong.
Am I happy to be marrying Rebecca as my wife? No. I am not happy. I am ELATED!
I always tell my newly acquainted friends now that the wife I have now must be because of the good deeds that I have been accumulating for my past lives and given time and time and lives after lives again, I would want to be her husband and she, being my wife again.
In Elation!
Eugene Goh
